“Teenagers” are not aliens from another planet. It is the adolescence period swinging within the range of thirteen till nineteen, precisely. This is the most crucial period of the growing-up of your child.
At this stage, your child struggles for individuality and yet desires for peer acceptance; behaviors are often self-contradictory. A teenager sees the world through an imaginary colorful glass on their eyes where they often feel insecure yet invulnerable.
This is the time when a teen can be easily compared with ‘water,’ where they take up the shape of the mold in which they will be placed; to develop their mindset and personality.
Teenage Is A Revolting Period
A teenager would anyways start to proclaim their freedom and invent their identity that may seem unpredictable and inexplicable to parents. Mostly all parents find this act challenging to endure, whereas that is a normal action of a teen. For example, it becomes hard to digest for parents the fact that once an obedient kid who could never be separated from the parents, now does not prefer to be with them.
On the contrary, a ‘difficult teenager’ is encountered with emotional, behavioral, or learning issues, more severe than the common teenage challenge. They may indulge themselves in drugs, drinking, violence, school bunks, unhygienic sexual activity, shoplifting, and many more.
In some cases, it is observed that a ‘difficult teenager’ experiences anxiety, depression, or eating disorders. All parents must seek professional help when you find your child repeating the negative behaviors as it can turn to severe issues with the course of time.
Identify A Child’s Transformation To A Difficult Teenager
1. Change In Appearance
It is pronounced for teens to keep up with the trending fashion that may include wearing attention-seeking or revealing clothes to follow odd haircuts and styles. Parents need to believe that taste and preferences will change with time. However, if the change in appearance is escorted by negative behaviors and problems at school or to the family, then it becomes alarming.
Consider all signs of self-destruction, like cutting of hand or any self-harming act along with too much of weight loss or gain as a warning. There can be health or psychological issues that need proper attention.
2. Extreme Mood Swings
During the adolescence period, a teenager goes through hormonal developments that often lead to uncontrolled anger, irritating behavior, and mood swings with unmanageable emotions.
Out of all these, extreme mood swings are the most common factor among teens. But if there is persistent sadness, fast change in personality, sleep disorders, or falling grades, these could be indications of depression or any other emotional and health issue.
3. Rebellious Behavior
Teenagers start looking forward to an independent life that will be restriction-free. Parents frequently argue with them in this context and try to put a checkpoint. A troubled teen will get into fights, arguments, home violence and will revolt out on any minor discussion that they do not feel appropriate as per their rule book.
4. Addiction To Alcohol Or Drugs
With the change in our society, parents also need to adopt new techniques of parenting where they should teach their teens frankly about alcohol consumption and the effects of drugging.
Despite the discussion, teenagers would still try smoking and alcohol at some point or the other. However, if the intake of alcohol or drugs becomes regular, it is then can be considered an addiction and requires attention.
If you realize that your child has become challenging to manage and is going through rough patches in life, take charge of the situation to improve your teen’s future.
Ways To Deal With Difficult Teenagers
Resolve the puzzle and recreate the bonding between both the parties.
1. Control Your Reactions
A problematic teenager will always try to push you to the end of your patience level to make you outburst your reactions by disobeying, throwing attitude or by breaking the set of rules that you as a parent have created for control check.
The best way to handle the situation is to keep calm and judge wisely. To control your anger, count till ten, and by the time you reach the tenth number, you would have already arrived at the solution.
2. Communicate With Your Child
James Humes correctly quotes it; “The art of communication is the language of leadership.” Effective communication is the best way to break through the ice shield between you and your teen. Learn to deal diplomatically using assertive communication. The more you communicate with an awkward teenager, the more you will get to know their psychology and take action accordingly.
3. Apply Divide And Rule Policy For Difficult Teenager’s Group
Friends play an essential role in a teenager’s life. They eventually withdraw from their parents and live for friends. This does not allow a parent to give up on their lad. If your child is not mingling with safe people, and has become difficult to handle, identify the leader of the group and apply techniques to separate them from each other. This will take away most of the strength from your problematic teen, and it will be easier to manage them to get back on track.
4. Set Ground Rules
Setting ground rules are similar to setting the right expectations for your teen. The adolescence period demands for self-hood and independence, which will inevitably create a challenge for parents. Thus, setting ground rules beforehand works in favor of maintaining a constructive relationship between a parent and the child. These rules are more useful when they are reasonable; less complicated, and are applied with consistency.
Parenting Teens With Love and Logic Is The Key
Despite behaving as friendly as possible, parents may experience a change in the behavior of their child and can feel that they have become troublesome to manage. There can be many reasons that may have influenced a teenager to behave differently and labelled as a troublesome teen.
Never hesitate to seek adept help, be it a doctor or a psychiatrist who can do a root cause analysis of the problem and take care of it inside-out, to can change your child’s life for good.
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